Why?

"Why am I doing this?" is a question I asked myself today when this idea popped in my head and then subsequently committed to my fiance that we would each do blogs about the experiences leading up to and including our wedding. I came up with a few reasons to justify to myself why I would do this.

1.) There are countless blogs out there that show the "frilly" side of an engagement and wedding, including my fiance's. I want to give the perspective of the other side of what I believe is a story not often told, the story of the Groom.
2.) I/we have gotten countless questions in the last two weeks (wow it has only been two weeks) about our experiences being engaged. This blog provides a vehicle for me/we to keep family and friends up to date about our experiences.
3.) This will be an exercise in keeping my sanity. If I have a place to release the thoughts, worries, concerns and humor about this experience I might just make it out sane. 

Now, what you need to know about me in order for this blog to make a bit of sense to you.

I'm not your typical Groom. 

Right after I got engaged I was told that "my part" was done and now all I had to do was show up for the wedding.. While I did spend months agonizing over the purchase of an engagement ring (I'll save that story for another post), meticulously planning plan A,B,C & D (all of which failed. See Martha's post about our engagement http://26toforever.blogspot.com/) and then choreographing the release of the good news to family, friends and colleagues, I do not believe "my part" is done.

One of the reasons that I had such a terrible time picking out a ring is that it was a complete surprise to Martha. Not a word was mentioned to friends or family, as to keep them surprised and most importantly, not able to ruin the special moment I wanted to take place. She and I talk about everything, including major life decisions. This helps give another perspective, reassure your decisions and most importantly gives me the option to blame her for not stopping me from making a bad decision. This wedding will be OUR wedding. As painful as it will be, I plan on being by her side through every step of the process from bridal shows, to seating charts to the overwhelmed tears. I plan to enjoy every moment of this journey and take in every everything I can.


Sometimes I need a two-by-four to smack me upside the head to realize the obvious.

This again will for sure be a later post, but know that for years Martha has been one of the shinning parts of my life. I may have tried to block out that light at times or pretend it wasn't there, but that is where the two-by-four came in. Almost always, my heart/gut tells me what I should be doing. It usually takes my brain a little while to get invited to the "good idea" party.

I have a bizarre sense of humor.

Be prepared for thoughts and insight that at times might be shocking. However, I will not welcome you completely to my inner psyche. This, of course, is totally for your protection.

Well, I hope you enjoy. I look forward to your questions, feedback and sharing this exciting life journey with Martha and myself.